Are you the chief cook and bottle washer of a “multi-generational boarding house”? A recent survey by VibrantNation.com shows that nearly 2/3 of boomer women report that one or more of their adult children have returned home to live – and that nearly half of them have brought one or more of their own children [...]

Early census data is confirming a trend we noted earlier, that those of us looking towards retirement are opting to age in place rather than retreating to the Sunbelt. In fact, we’re choosing to live closer to cities to keep work options open. Boomers helped fuel growth in retirement destinations, now we’re playing a role [...]

While you’re reviewing your intentions for the year and deciding what you want to let go of and what you want to take with you this year, releasing a hurt, thought, injury or old issue may well be on your agenda. Use this simple process as a tool to help you. A ritual is a [...]

A central dilemma to come to terms with in so many midlife passages Carolyn Myss tackles the ‘spiritual stickiness’ of settling for less than what you want, in this piece on Oprah. Myss bypasses the easy answer of looking at ‘settling’ as a passive choice that lets you off the hook for the choices you’ve [...]

Going through divorce is by nature painful enough on so many levels, commit to not adding to your stress by making it as peaceful as you can. Don’t fill it with high drama and conflict, but acknowledge the sadness, pain and loss on all sides, and try not to increase it. Start with intention and [...]

With the debut of the first ‘modern’ retirement facility in Sun City, Arizona in 1960, replete with golf courses, recreation centers and activities clubs, it’s been 50 years that Americans’ ideas have shifted about retirement. Sun City recast the idea of retirement as a non-working life of limited opportunity to one of possibility and productivity. [...]

Egads, everyone seems to be in gear so early this year with teleclass offerings – or is it me, still savoring the post holiday quiet? In any case, regular readers, you are rewarded with these last minute updates. Image consultant Brenda Kinsel, author of several books for dressing with style after 40, also seen on [...]

I want to insert this quick post here for anyone who may have getting control of your financial life high on your to-do list this year – anyone? Vicki Robin, well-known coauthor, with Joe Dominguez, of Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence, is hosting [...]

How Do You Handle Regret?

December 12, 2009 | 1 Comment

Regret stops mental growth suggests this director of a brain-based education institute. People who regret missed chances from the past tend to focus less on opportunities today – and only have more regrets to lament tomorrow. “Regrets for failed finances, for what could have been, for caring words left unspoken, for dreams left unreached. Whether [...]

This excerpt from Debbie Ford’s newsletter, The Light and Dark, paradoxically suggests diving directly into your shadow – nemesis and harbinger of midlife – to raise your self-esteem. An elegant tool to pierce the heart of the awakening at midlife. “So how do we raise our self-esteem? There is only one way … I am [...]

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