Jan
15
Do You Want to Be Right or to Have What You Want?
January 15, 2000 | Leave a Comment
Do you know people who complain a lot? You offer suggestions or advice, or even your sympathy, but nothing seems to move them? Or they have a reason why each of your ideas won’t work? How often do you refuse to be moved off your point, even when it might be to your advantage to [...]
Jan
13
What Matters in Building a Life That Works
January 13, 2000 | Leave a Comment
I am fascinated by the way world is changing. It’s a time of transformation where many of the old rules for how things get done are up for re-examination. I am particularly interested in how the wealth created by new technologies has challenged the business community to examine their ethical choices with regard to their [...]
Jan
12
To Access Your Intuition, Be Alert to the Gap Between Your Thoughts
January 12, 2000 | Leave a Comment
It often seems that our minds are thinking all the time. However, as meditation practitioners soon discover, it’s not true at all. There’s a lot of space between our thoughts. Thoughts arise and then fall, and are replaced with new thoughts. With some practice, it’s easy to notice this space between thoughts, like the space [...]
Jan
12
Living Life as a Permanent Vacation
January 12, 2000 | Leave a Comment
Most people I know would love to live their lives as if each day felt like their favorite vacation. To wake up in the morning with a vacant mind, free of the debris of things to do, projects to handle, problems to sort out, choices to make, plans to set in motion, and time to [...]
Jan
10
To Flow with Change, Strengthen Your Spiritual Intelligence
January 10, 2000 | Leave a Comment
Let’s face it. Change is scary. Whether it’s walking into party of a roomful of strangers, or becoming a new parent, you feel you are losing something essential. And you are. Your identity is on the line. You are shedding an old role, or self-image, and exposing yourself to new perspectives and interpretations of what [...]
Jan
9
Improve Your Quality of Life by Getting Off of Adrenaline
January 9, 2000 | Leave a Comment
In our society stress seems accepted as a way of life. In coaching we say that people are “running on adrenaline” (in honor of the hormone faithfully secreted from the adrenal glands), when they push, rush around to get things done or meet deadlines, and generally operate from a sense of urgency in their daily [...]
Jan
8
The Only Way Out of Difficult Emotions is Through Them
January 8, 2000 | Leave a Comment
stripes divx download I’ve always been interested in the interior life. In emotions, perception, the different ways that people see or process the same event or feeling, and the ways that cultures unevenly encourage some qualities and feelings and not others. I think it’s fair to say that one of our greatest challenges as humans [...]
Jan
7
Guilt Is a Major Obstacle to Moving Forward
January 7, 2000 | Leave a Comment
“People always seem to prefer guilt to helplessness. No one wants to feel completely powerless, so they’d rather blame themselves because in blaming at least there’s a sense that it’s someone’s fault.” (Joan Borsyenko, Ph.D.) There’s a vital distinction between healthy and unhealthy guilt. Healthy guilt is the recognition that you did something hurtful to [...]
Jan
4
Look at Who You Are Becoming Rather Than Who You’ve Been
January 4, 2000 | Leave a Comment
One of the truths we take for granted in our western culture is that we can understand and explain who we are and who we can become by examining our childhoods. We believe that who we are is an extension of the past– of our family relationships and environment, or of any abuse we suffered, [...]
Jan
3
The Three C’s of Stress-Hardiness
January 3, 2000 | Leave a Comment
We all know people who do well under stressful conditions, in fact, they seem to thrive on it. Now you can get some clues as to how they do it. Research has identified several characteristics of these stress-hardy people. They are called the three C’s of stress-hardiness, and they form the basis of what’s called [...]
