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Commit to Taking the Drama – and Trauma – Out of Your Divorce
January 21, 2010 | Leave a Comment
Posted by: Kathleen Daniel
Going through divorce is by nature painful enough on so many levels, commit to not adding to your stress by making it as peaceful as you can. Don’t fill it with high drama and conflict, but acknowledge the sadness, pain and loss on all sides, and try not to increase it. Start with intention and with the language you use. These authors suggest as an alternative that you can have an inner dialog that sounds something like this: “I am faced with a situation and I have a choice. I can let my emotions run this thing, look for the most cut throat lawyer in town and go in for the kill or I can save my time, money and soul by avoiding court. What options do I have that will make this process as pain free as possible? How can I protect my rights and be fair to the other person? I know everyone wants to get the best deal they can, so how can we set up a win/win?” Food for thought.
