How to Choose Well

January 30, 2000 | Leave a Comment

Learning to choose well is a valuable skill, saving time and hassles, building your confidence and self-worth, and generating its own positive momentum. Fortunately, with attention and care, it’s a skills that can be developed. Good choices are reality based, and making the right ones are based on what matters most to you, given all [...]

“Being with” unwelcome and painful emotions, and threatening or confusing thoughts is difficult. They often evoke strong, visceral responses. It’s nice to recommend staying with difficult feelings as a way to get through them, but how do you do that? Some moments can be overwhelming, literally, physiologically. The nervous system, flooded with conflicting [...]

What is intention? Intention means, “to stretch toward.” It is the beginning of bending your mind toward a target. It is a force closely related to vision. Vision allows you to create reality, not merely to react to it. Intention inspires vision. Intention organizes your potential and brings [...]

It’s the New Year and a new opportunity to take some time to reflect on various aspects of your life, to gauge how your inner vision matches up with what’s actually true in your life. It’s a natural and beneficial habit to raise your head above the familiar daily routine to see if the road [...]

One thing that holds people back from achieving their full potential is a low, sometimes crippling, sense of self-worth. While the causes of low self-esteem are various and open to speculation, understanding its origin is sometimes less useful in overcoming it than is becoming aware of the specific habits of speech and thought that [...]

As these Tips have taken a decidedly philosophical bent lately, I thought it might be instructive to describe some of their underpinnings, as they clearly reflect life viewed through a very particular lens. To frame it as broadly as possible in the language of my own thinking, what shines through most clearly is decidedly [...]

Do you share an intimate rapport with your body? Do you carry on an internal dialog with your headache, tight shoulders, or tired feet? Have you ever noticed when your body just doesn’t want to go in the same direction you intend to take it? More importantly, do you ever ask it [...]

No matter what we may say we want and strive for, at the end of our endeavors–with our money, comfort and kudos firmly in hand - what we are hoping to achieve is peace of mind, contentment, a stilling of the many voices that compete for air time in our awareness. Sometimes we get [...]

Ever wonder if that “intuitive flash” you just experienced was in fact the most brilliant insight you’ve ever had, or perhaps the most foolish? You’re not alone, of course. Learning to distinguish intuition from wishful thinking, or impulse can be challenging. But it is a learnable skill. As Christina Baldwin writes [...]

Do you know people who complain a lot? You offer suggestions or advice, or even your sympathy, but nothing seems to move them? Or they have a reason why each of your ideas won’t work? How often do you refuse to be moved off your point, even when it might be [...]

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